I have been reading in Matthew about forgiveness, so I wanted to share some thoughts about it.
While reading in Matthew and doing a little bit of research, I read that in biblical times in Judaism, it was sufficient to forgive someone 3 times. So when Peter approached Jesus in Matthew 18 and asked him how many times should he forgive his brother, replying with 7 times seemed to have been extremely generous number. I mean, that's more than double what Judaism saw as sufficient, right?
Jesus' reply of seventy times seven must have been completely shocking to Peter! That's a lot of forgiveness! The point Jesus is trying to make, is that we shouldn't keep count of how many times we forgive people. What? Does this mean we should just let people walk all over us and continue to forgive them every time they hurt us? In my opinion, I believe you should set barriers to keep people from continuing to hurt you and putting yourself in a position to continually having to forgive them, but when they hurt you, you should forgive them. That's what the Bible says!
I admit, I am not the best at forgiveness. I often hold grudges. I am competitive and like to win and sometimes view forgiveness as losing, but these verses are a good reminder for me to always forgive and not hold on to those bitter feelings. They only hurt me anyway.
The story here continues with a parable. Jesus tells a story of a servant who owed his king 10,000 talents. When reading about how much money this really was, it would have taken the servant about 20 years to pay off his debt. The king was going to sell the servant to have his debt paid, but the servant pleaded with him to let him continue to work to pay for his debt. And just like that the king forgave his debt. Wow!
How much more gracious is God at forgiving us! How long have you been sinning? God has been forgiving our debt since the day we were born into this sinful world! We, like the servant, have more debt than can ever be repaid. We can never repay Jesus for dying for our sins on the cross! And God doesn't punish us. He doesn't even threaten to punish us (unless we are not one of His children). We deserve punishment for our sin; we deserve justice, but just as the king simply forgave the servant's debt, so did Jesus. He forgave us by dying on the cross. He forgave us with an immeasurable gift. A gift of eternal forgiveness.
Therefore, we must show mercy to others and forgive them because we have God living within us. If we are not merciful and forgiving to others, one day we will have to answer for that and there will be consequences.
Further in the story, the servant approaches a fellow servant who owed him one hundred denarii. This amount would have been equivalent to about 20 weeks work by the fellow servant. The servant refused to forgive the fellow servant's debt and had him placed in jail. The servant's heart was not transformed by God. Do we truly want to live with a transformed heart or continue to go around with unforgiven bitterness in our heart?
The fellow servant being handed over to the jailer also further shows how much we deserve punishment. Isn't that what is just? Sending someone to jail because they cannot pay us for what we deserve!
But God calls us to live a transformed life, a changed life. We should forgive because we understand God's forgiveness for us. We forgive not because it is just, but because we know we should be punished and we are not.
A changed life by God means we live this way with our reason and thoughts, our emotions and our will and soul. So which will you choose? Will you choose to truly live a transformed life or will you continue to hold on to the things people do to you? If you choose to hold onto them, know you do not truly understand the magnitude of Jesus' purpose on this earth. I am choosing from this day forward to always remember to forgive, even when it is hard. And I hope you will keep me accountable to do so if you see me holding onto something that needs to be forgiven.
I hope this sparks some of you to go out and do your own research to know how you can change your heart in the matters of forgiveness. I know it was definitely something I needed to study. Honestly, I have read and studied it several times before posting this because it is hard to come to grips with how intense God wants us to be with our forgiveness. I would love to have thoughts and feedback and what you have learned about forgiveness.
Brittany